Unlike her Twitter-happy husband, Melania Trump maintains a relatively quiet life in the public eye. Her personal opinions are opaque, as were her whereabouts for most of May, when she spent weeks laying low after being treated for a \u201cbenign kidney condition,\u201d prompting a number of\u00a0conspiracy theories about her absence.\r\nThe first lady is something of a mystery to the American people. Despite \u2014 or more likely, because of \u2014 that disconnect, the public has on numerous occasions attempted to figure her out by the only means available: her clothing.\r\nThe most recent example of this happened this week, when she wore a Zara jacket printed with the words \u201cI don\u2019t really care, do u?\u201d while en route to visit migrant children at the US-Mexico border. In the middle of a crisis over the\u00a0Trump administration\u2019s family separation policy, it seemed impossible that not a single person on her team \u2014 no stylist, PR person, or aide \u2014 had questioned the harsh implications of that message.\r\nBut as with many things Melania-related, it was hard to say for sure what she meant by wearing it. Though government officials and their family members often\u00a0use clothing\u00a0to send messages, reading those signals is a real challenge when it comes to Melania, simply because she\u2019s provided so little context to work with.\r\nIn reality, people\u2019s interest in figuring out what \u201cI don\u2019t really care, do u?\u201d means likely isn\u2019t just about understanding the first lady. It\u2019s also about making sense of a relentlessly chaotic administration that\u2019s left many Americans with a sense of ongoing instability. It was only days before President Donald Trump signed an executive order ending the separation of immigrant families that he said \u201cyou can\u2019t do it through an executive order.\u201d\r\nThe outfit-decoding machine has gone into high gear multiple times before, including even before Trump got into office. Every time, we wonder if Melania is trying to send us a message with her clothes. And every time, we\u2019re left with the same answer: We just don\u2019t know for certain.