How Not to Ruin Your Life: Vital Tips on Avoiding a Failed Marriage

18 November, 2022
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How Not to Ruin Your Life: Vital Tips on Avoiding a Failed Marriage

"Make sure you have your own life before you're someone else's wife," said the cultural icon and triple threat artist Beyoncé to Oprah Winfrey.

In our traditional Arab country, the be-all and end-all for Lebanese women used to be getting married before a certain age and bringing life into the world. We were bombarded, and still are to a certain extent, with cultural and environmental influences highlighting the importance and need to enter the most sacred of institutions, marriage.

Naturally and regrettably, men and women rush into commitments before factoring in some vital issues to be tackled prior to wedlock. Such as becoming whole on their own and chasing after their dreams before chasing their significant other.

Speaking from a Lebanese woman's point of view, it is crucial to find your purpose, create the life you have envisioned for yourself and achieve financial independence so you're not just someone's daughter or someone's sister or someone's wife. Your ability to live in that kind of freedom will largely define who you are.

Living in your truth, getting satisfaction and gratification from a career track you're proud of, that utilizes your unique skillset and gifts, these faculties empower women. They give them the ability to make better choices for themselves. To know that they don't need a man to survive but want him instead to enhance bewitchingly their already well-rounded lives.

Know who you are, what you love, do the work on self-improvement and self-awareness. Be an expression of joy instead of being in a constant and exhausting pursuit of happiness. Then and only then may you ponder entering this sacred bond.

If you want a love-filled marriage, if you don't want to be just another statistic of a failed union leading to divorce, or living a lie where one or both parties are engaging in an affair, which is the sad state of most marriages in our country, make better choices for yourself.

Realize that the goal is to live fully, in alignment with who you are and what you love, not to get married before 30, pop out a few kids and make society, your parents, your friends, everyone but yourself happy.

Source: MTV

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